We love Sujen's digital diary where she shares moments of her family, culture, + sweet motherhood journey.
What do you wish other mamas knew about your experience as an AAPI mama/woman in America?
I am proud to be an AAPI mama AND woman today. When I was younger, I could not say the same. Like many others, my parents came here to live out the "American Dream," and create the life for us that they couldn't have. To this day, my parents still continue to work harder that anyone else that I know. I feel fortunate that I was able to get an education, and provide for my children in ways that can continue to live out my parents' dream for our family.
What do you wish every mama would teach their children about AAPI history?
Just to acknowledge their own heritage - the amount of struggles and hardships, as well as the determination and perseverance. My children come from both Japanese and Korean backgrounds, and it is important for us to continue cultural traditions. My hope that is that they will continue these traditions when they have children of their own to acknowledge where they came from.
What is a real life mama moment you have had recently?
One of my kids came home from school one day and told me that they had an "active shooter" drill. To sit down with a six year old and discuss the reasons why one may need to do this drill is one of the hardest thing to do as a parent. I left the dialogue open, and asked her what her steps would be, and what her thoughts were on it. It creates immense heaviness in my soul knowing that this is the reality for our children today.
How have you grown as a woman since becoming a mother?
Since becoming a mother, I have grown in many ways. There are days where I feel defeated and/or exhausted, and for the longest time, I felt that I had to do it all. But you become aware of your limitations, and learn to let things go, delegate tasks, and know who you can rely upon for help or support. Admitting that you need help was something that I definitely had to learn. I have learned to give myself grace day in and day out, because no one is perfect.
Share about a mothering moment you feel proud of?
My oldest daughter has participated in Tae Kwon Do (a Korean martial art) for the past year and a half. She recently competed in a tournament, and did very well. To witness my daughter's bravery, courage, and sportsmanship at such a young age is something that I am in awe of, and I couldn't be more proud of her.
What brings you joy in motherhood?
What brings me joy in motherhood is to witness the joy that my own children experience. Their happiness brings me happiness. I am grateful that I am blessed with a profession that I enjoy, a supportive partner, and a loving extended family that can provide for our family in a multitude of ways.